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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- (mis)Handling Overload

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- (mis)Handling Overload

I’m just going to relate something that happened to me today. I’ll warn you now that I describe self-harm.

I was taken by ambulance to the local hospital’s Emergency department this morning. I’d phoned the non-emergency number the night before, discussed various symptoms, and they said they were dispatching an emergency ambulance.

Over eight hours later I was awoken by loud knocking at my door: the paramedics. They were very good, thorough, and after a

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Don't Fear The Reaper–Facing up to Death and Suicide

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Don't Fear The Reaper–Facing up to Death and Suicide

Even with all the magical technology we take for granted, there is one thing that our ancestors lived with and knew well that we are much less familiar with today: death.

I have reached the mid-point of my fifth decade, living and travelling in a world of some 7 billion humans, yet having only ever seen one dead person. That seems wrong: why does our society have such a fear of death and dying?

In

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- The Hidden Cost of Behaviourist Therapies

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- The Hidden Cost of Behaviourist Therapies

Earlier this year a research paper was published that reports shocking rates of Post-Traumatic Stress and mental health problems among autistic people who have undergone ABA.

ABA is Applied Behaviour Analysis, an intervention typically used in childhood to modify behaviour. It derives from the work of Ole Ivar Lovaas in the 1960s in which he experimented on children, subjecting them to electric shocks and other so-called aversives to force them to comply with his directions.

Now,

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Stateless

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Stateless

Roots plumb the abyssSeeking solid anchorage:World drifts as I sit.

The poem below describes my feelings, feelings I’ve had since that day in June 2016 when my place in the world was involuntarily taken from me. I learned then, and every day since, that I don’t belong anywhere. I used to live on a piece of Europe: that was my state, my home. But that was stolen from beneath my feet and although I

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- A Token of Low Esteem–The Problem of Superficial #Autism Inclusion

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- A Token of Low Esteem–The Problem of Superficial #Autism Inclusion

There’s a recurring pattern that can be seen in countless organisations and government committees that have a focus on autism. Being autistic myself I’m fairly adept at recognising patterns, but this is one I wish I didn’t keep seeing.

Considering how many autistic people there are, it’s remarkable how few of us are actually involved directly in the private, charitable and government organisations that are largely responsible for developing and implementing the policies and services

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- I Am #Autistic, Not Your Bogeyman

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- I Am #Autistic, Not Your Bogeyman

So we have conservative pundit George Will in Newsweek calling Trump “Socially Autistic” to describe his total lack of empathy or compassion. No. Just no.

After my first response (“Fuck you!” for anybody who wanted to know) I remembered to breathe and put a little bit more thought into a statement about this latest example of autism being used as an insult, a slur. Don’t get me wrong, I have no problem whatsoever with Trump

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Understanding Autism

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Understanding Autism

This is based on a presentation I gave to colleagues where I work today titled Understanding Autism. Although not a transcript, the text here is based on my detailed speaker’s notes.

Apologies in advance for the rough editing I performed to put it into the shape you see here, but I didn’t want to spend all night polishing it. So without further ado, here we go!

I’ll start with brief description of what autism

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- The One True Way(tm) Of Being Autistic

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- The One True Way(tm) Of Being Autistic

Growing up autistic you get used to being told, “Don’t do that!” So what a relief when you get past all that, find other autistic folks, and finally get to be yourself! Am I right?

Except…

Sooner or later you run into the Autistic Behaviour Police. If you’ve spent any time online as an autistic person you have probably encountered them. Maybe you equivocated when asked about puzzle pieces. Maybe you showed ambivalence about

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- An Open Letter To @Twitter — Protect Epileptic Users From Flashing GIFs

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- An Open Letter To @Twitter — Protect Epileptic Users From Flashing GIFs

A couple of weeks ago, on and around August 10th there was yet another long-running argument being conducted on Twitter between anti-vaccine supporters on the one hand and autistic advocates on the other.

You’re probably thinking, “So what?” These arguments go on almost constantly and what does it matter? Well, events this time transpired differently when one of the participants tweeted a strobing GIF to somebody who had earlier identified themselves as having photosensitive epilepsy.

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Don't Speak — Living With the Trauma of Emotional Abuse

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Don't Speak — Living With the Trauma of Emotional Abuse

I thought I was free. I thought I could cope with limited contact, dealing with my ex occasionally. Trying to be amicable, even helpful. I was wrong. The same issues that caused me anxiety and fear before I left still happened. The blame, the criticism, the gaslighting. Trying to make me feel responsible for the situation she found herself in.

The worst part: it kind of worked. She knows my buttons all too well and

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Reblog: “Open letter to those who think autistic kids should not be allowed to disturb mainstream education settings” by Michelle Sutton

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Reblog: “Open letter to those who think autistic kids should not be allowed to disturb mainstream education settings” by Michelle Sutton

Michelle Sutton has written an excellent summary here of the issue of including autistic kids in mainstream education, and why improving the school environment for autistic needs can benefit everyone. Definitely a must-read.

As usual I’m coming into the discussion “late”. The conversation about inclusion of autistic students in our nations classrooms has been at the forefront of all my social media feeds this week, and I’ve been sitting here, swinging between trying to take it

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Writing #Autistic Characters–An #ActuallyAutistic Perspective

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Writing #Autistic Characters–An #ActuallyAutistic Perspective

Writing Autistics do ask us for our help and input listen to what we tell you respect us as unique individuals remember we have feelings give us subtle, complex motivations portray adults as well as children don’t ridicule our differences treat us as objects of pity assume our goal is to be like you use our behaviours as a running joke fall into lazy, outdated stereotyping expect praise just for mentioning us We need

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- On the Red Dot – autism

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- On the Red Dot – autism

Dawn-joy Leong, accompanied as always by her darling Lucy, speaks eloquently about autism and acceptance on a TV programme broadcast last week in Singapore.

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Lucy and I were featured on Mediacorp’s Channel 5 – On the Red Dot – last week, 21 July 2017. The programme was about autism in Singapore.

The full programme is at the Toggle site – though I am told that people outside of Singapore may

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Perfect storm. #autism – by Sonia Boue (reblog)

Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Perfect storm. #autism – by Sonia Boue (reblog)

Historically I’ve not often reblogged posts by other writers — in fact it’s probably only about 3 times in all the years. And that’s because I wanted the focus of this blog to be me. But now, with the “rebranding” and relaunch as My Autistic Dance I feel I want to expand what I publish here to include links to other posts that are insightful and illuminating, and principally about autism, such as this one by

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Blog:Married: With Aspergers- Is There Anybody Out There? – Insecurity

When you’re autistic you get used to being let down, to having your hopes dashed. You start out believing what people tell you, taking their words at face value because you can’t judge accurately how sincere they are and aren’t often aware when something is only a social convention and not meant literally.

Growing up, we autistics initially presume that our relationships with others are reciprocated as strongly as we imagine them to be. It

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